How do you explain the scars they don’t see? This is a question a person whose experienced emotional abuse might ask. Not to say that one form of abuse out weighs the other, but because we live in a society where seeing is believing, black eyes and bruises tell an untold story. Emotional scars are invisible as far as the eye can see which allows the abuser to convince the abused they are not being abused.
As a child we used the saying ‘sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me’. Well as we grew into adults we realized that was the biggest lie ever told. Not only do words hurt but they penetrate deep into the core of our being. Whether true or false if a stone is thrown repeatedly it will eventually tear through your “tough” skin. Physical scars can heal over days or weeks but emotional scars could take years. I’ve seen grown women and men who were told negative things as a child and have held on to those things. Pain has no identity, it can look like a malnutrition train wreck with wild hair or a well kept over achiever with the most beautiful smile.
This month we will discuss a variety of topics pertaining to abuse and warning signs to look for. We plan to open up the blog for other women/men to speak out on this and give feedback. I hope that this series is beneficial to someone out there who may be suffering behind closed doors. Let the healing process begin!
Co-author of Tidbits for Women